He keeps coming back

[BellKira]

hi everyone, to cut a long story short, my partner walked out on me and our children a while ago. He keeps returning to the house daily and says it’s for the kids.
we are both on the mortgage although he pays all the bills.
I feel like whilst he keeps coming back ‘for the kids’ each day, I cannot move on from this break up. He is adamant that he can do what he wants as it’s his house.
am I being unreasonable asking him to not come here? I’m at my wits end with what to do. I would never stop him seeing the kids but how am I meant to move on when he is in the house every day?
tysm

very true!
I should have worded my post more clearly, what I meant to say was that ultimately it would be better if she had her own separate home to which this man has no claim- hence my suggestion to get legal advice in order to effect that outcome.

Are you actually named on the deeds ?
if so do you own as joint tenants or tenants in common? If the latter as equal or unequal shares

as yiu are not married this is the only really key thing. Because that’s what you’re due along with child maintenance

Sorry all for the late reply!
so yeah we own equal shares. We have spoken about selling up and that’s not even the issue..
I would prefer if he saw the kids say 3 nights a week and whenever over the weekend, maybe take them out for tea etc. he’s currently coming to the house every evening to put them to bed. Even buying takeaways for us to sit eating together. If I go out, he says I’m immature and can’t be in the same room as him, but I can’t keep going on like this as I just don’t feel like I will accept the relationship is over if he keeps coming back every… single… day! Urghhhhhhhh. Surely I’m not being unreasonable?!

You need to sever the ties to your joint home
either buy him out or force a sale

you’re Not unreasonable in wanting these boundaries but it’s not going to happen while you still jointly own your home