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Living Apart Together

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Chopsiegirl · 23/01/2023 18:20

I just wondered if anyone out there is in the same position as me and if it works!
Husband and I have been together over 15 years and married for 10 & a half. The last 2 & a half years have been tremendously tough with us coping with lots of bereavement, his depression, him leaving his job after 26 years due to medical inefficiency & becoming self employed.
We stopped talking, doing anything together & to cut a long story short, we separated in October & bought 2 separate places. I always told him he’d regret it.
Since then, our relationship has improved no end. He makes more effort to see me/talk to me - usually contact most days, several times a day and we don’t argue anymore. I am at peace living on my own but enjoy hearing from him & having contact. We recently slept together for the first time since June & it was amazing. There was more of a connection than there had been in years and it was equally lovely for him to kiss me goodbye & leave in the morning.
I have started researching living apart together & wonder if this could work for us.
Does anyone else currently do this or have experience of this?

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Pleasecreateausername13 · 23/01/2023 20:33

Don’t have any experience OP but it sounds lovely. Really hope it works out for you guys.

SpentDandelion · 23/01/2023 20:39

I know lots of couples who live like this, including one couple since having a baby over 20 yrs ago and all of them seem genuinely happy.
I think this set up sounds very promising for you and your husband. Just do what feels right for you.

Chopsiegirl · 23/01/2023 20:52

Thank you, that’s really encouraging. I’m not sure how my friends may react as they helped me through the split which was hideous, but I love him and can see another, different way through this that doesn’t result in divorce.

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Chopsiegirl · 23/01/2023 20:52

Thank you 🙏🏻

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Madforever · 09/06/2023 23:15

Hiya, this is something I'm thinking of. Just wondered how it's going if you don't mind me asking.

Chopsiegirl · 10/06/2023 09:33

Hi, it's going really well! I love living on my own in a clean, tidy flat & he is happy living in his place with all his mess lol.
When we talk (facetime) I have his full attention & it's like we're dating again.
I'm having a lovely Saturday- just walked the dogs with a friend, going to see another for coffee & he's coming to stay tonight & we've a table booked at a local pub for dinner.
No arguments over leaving boots in the hall, wet towels on the floor & whose turn to put the bin out.
I'll happily never live with him again 😃

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