Hey,
I never really post my private life online, but I’m struggling. Me and my husband separated 2 and half years ago and I moved on, I live with my current partner. I have four children, he didn’t really see his children for two years once or twice to try to just come back with us, but I held my own and refused. I was with him 12 years in which I was subject to abuse. Sexual financially and verbal. My husband was the type to just cause an argument and leave for few days, weeks months at a time and not allowing any contact blocking or turning phone off. I lived quite a miserable life for last 5 years as it just got worse. His mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer and I said he would have to move in with her to look after her , when she got very Ill, my best friend died in this time and my husband walked out on me and kids the night of his funeral. When his mum passed away he wanted to come back but I had of moved on as I had no contact with him for over a year. Anyway 6 months ago my family member seen him and he asked to reconnect with his children which I more then agreed as children need both parents.
at first it was great because my brothers where staying around to re-establish a connection as it been so long. Now we hit the hard part. My mum has started going with my ex every week, even to the movies? My brother pick him up then my children to drop them off to him and my mum. I didn’t see my family at Xmas at all but they were all with my ex and my kids Xmas eve? I have asked my mum to stop going she has refused. I have said that time has gone on and he needs to collect the kids himself, he refuses. I have asked my brother not to pick my kids up anymore and he takes them
while I’m at work without my permission. None of my family believe any of my abuse, and think I made it all up. I had to speak to my husband about my daughter on Saturday he told me he had people watching me and he was watching me told me two sets of flowers I had my window over two weeks. He said if I don’t leave my current partner I will lose everything and be in danger. He said he expects I moved on just not with this person. Told me I needed to listen to him as I am his husband and this is his home. Which it isn’t. He told my daughter that I cheated on him with my best friend for years now we have conflict. I just feel let down by my family as I’m losing them due to him now, there conflict everywhere and I’m just so done with it.
I got out of this marriage two years ago because of this now I feel I’m reliving it. My stress and anxiety is back and I just feel helpless. my mum is very much like my husband in controlling way I do not trust them together in which I have reason not to.
I just don’t know what to do, I feel I might be over reacting a bit, but in another way I don’t feel I am. All I want is for him to collect his children and for my family to let me deal with the co parenting now and stop making my decisions for me. Oh and him to stop manipulating everyone and making me scared
any advice would be appreciated
thanks