My husband and I separated last year. We were living in a house owned by his parents and paying subsidised rent (approx 500 a month + bills) which he paid while I covered childcare costs/looked after the 1&3 yr old whilst working a p/t lower income job. He then left me in spring, assuring me that nobody would be chucking us out of the house. I asked if we could stay until summer, which we did - he carried on paying for the rent and bills whilst staying at his parents' - but then asked if we could extend it a bit until October. I was scared about uprooting the kids and we didn't have anywhere to go except my parents. I earn just under 1k a month which doesn't get very far with childcare costs etc. On paper I can see this would frustrate them as they wanted to get it out on the market (which I didn't realise, I thought they just wanted us out so he could move back in) so they said we could have til October but were clearly very angry about it, and they've made their frustration and anger with me very clear. I am too muddled in my head to know whether or not that's fair at the moment if I'm honest, as I can see it from all sides. Since then me and the kids have been staying at my parents' whilst looking for somewhere else. I found out I'm getting 650 Universal Credit today which helps, but obviously trying to find a place on that plus my earnings is not easy. (Oh, it's important to say that husband and I are still on good terms at the moment, we do family days with the kids once a week and they sleepover at his for a night a week, so he looks after them on the friday and the saturday. He would like to try again, but I've asked that we put that on hold whilst he gets therapy for his mh and I get the kids housed and sorted). In terms of finance, he's checked the gov website and says he can pay what they suggest - which I think is about 450 a month. My parents think I should ask for more, as they're concerned I won't be able to survive. I am concerned that pressing for too much will mess up the dynamic we've created in healthy co-parenting and keeping the kids well adjusted (which I'm so far very proud of). His parents are very involved and like I said, very angry with me, and I'm worried that they'll throw costs they incurred during our time there at me (they had to get the house repainted and some white goods replaced after we left) and I don't want it to get messy or nasty. I know this was down to both of us, but for some reason it's all levelled at me. I have NO idea what's right. I don't want to fleece anyone, but I don't want to get less than we deserve to get settled either. I'm ND so I struggle to know what I think sometimes, or what's fair. Is the 450 a month fair or should I be pressing for more? He doesn't have loads - I think he earns about £37k - but his parents are very wealthy so he's likely to always be okay. But it's also important he has enough to move out of theirs. I would rather not take that into account at all - I didn't want to rent from them in the first place - and just focus on his own salary as if they were never involved. Help! What should I do? (SO SORRY FOR THIS VERY LONG RAMBLE!)