Separated from my partner and there are disagreements which I believe are due to an inability to put our child first, and to be spiteful.
We have 50:50 over a two week cycle.
Example: child attends swimming and has weekly since 4 months old, always taken by myself. Ex partner will not take our child during his time as he may have plans. Will not allow anyone else in his family, or myself.
His family have always done 4 days of childcare, and my family 1 day as my family could not more.
We discussed our child attending preschool daily, but after separating, he will only agree to two days and one of these must include the day she is with my family.
I feel that this is simply to avoid losing time with her, rather than about her best interests.
Now that we have shared arrangements, am I right in thinking I can decide for my 50%, I can organise my own childcare, and not rely on them, or will it be seen as the status quo? I feel now that we are separated, and they are being so rigid, that I need to gain control of the situation, because as it stands it is not equal time at all and they are not putting our child’s needs before their own.