Shared Care arrangements

[EVliving]

Good evening,

I am new to all this but need some advice please.

I have shared care of my child, which is great. However I work shifts and on my days off off I have him. Problem is when I am working nights my ex still drops him off when I get home from a 12 hour shift expecting me to still do the school run and also pick him up after school so they can work normally. To be honest it is draining as I then get very little sleep and do another night shift. On school holidays my son still gets dropped off to me even though I have worked all night.

Does this seem fair. Any opinions appreciated. How can I change it.

I have asked them but they say no thats the agreement. Nothing written down or legal.

I think shared care should work by me doing the child care when I have him and they should do it when they have him. I now do 15 morning schools in 4 weeks they do 5, I do all the school collections with the help of my parents, they do none.

How old is the kid? A 4yr old would be different in my view to a 14yr old.

However no shared care is 50/50 not whe they feel like it. Unless it is not jnfact shared care and you are actually the default parent... which is a different balm game isn't it.

I would agree a time for hand over days, and make handover this same time every day.

Obviously your ex does not ha e to agree to change plans and then you decide wither to take the process to mediation/Court.

Thanks for your reply,

He is 9 and in primary school.

I work 2 days 2 night and he gets dropped off at mine between my days and nights and also after my night shifts. I then have him on my days off.

It just seems that I am doing the major share of the childcare when it should be shared. My ex would say that my job should not affect theres so should put my self out to help.

He's your ex, you don't have to do as he tells you.
Tell him you won't be doing this anymore as you'll be asleep and that on his days he is responsible for dropping and collecting your son from school. Tell the school who will be collecting and who they need to call if he doesn't arrive as you are on a nightshift, lock your door in the morning. He will need to arrange childcare to enable him to work, you aren't it.