What I need to do? Running away from husband

[Lostmummy5]

I'm looking for any kind of advice because I'm completely lost in my situation. I'm crying all day and have no idea what to do.
I have 4 year old son and I'm pregnant with second one.
I'm SAHM, resigned from my job because we didn't have any childcare and I had some medical problems.
I don't have any family in UK, only couple of friends.
My husband hates me, I believe he has someone (women from his workplace) because in the last two months he blames me - I don't know how to cook, I'm crazy, I'm idiot, I'm too fat, I don't shave properly, etc. He is leaving notes on the bed that I'm "crazy bitch". He screams on me in front of our child and his mum (he invited her to UK, she lives with us).
All the abuse is verbal but it drives me crazy.
He knows I don't have a choice - I'm heavily pregnant, I sent my CV last week for any available job in my area, had couple of interviews but obviously everyone found "reasons" not to employ me. I don't have savings, we renting and I receiving top up from UC (it's less than £200).

I'm completely lost, if I could - I would run away today. I was trying to contact my council but I'm in London and they are very busy, still waiting for reply since 28th December.

What steps I should do? I understand there is a massive shortage of council properties, so they will probably send me to some centres or B&B? I was looking for a room to rent but I don't have enough money for it.

You need to get in touch with Woman's Aid.

Good luck. I know it's not going to be pleasant.

www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-directory/

Thank you, I know it'll be hard, I'm feeling like a looser already. I would be in better situation if wouldn't be so heavily pregnant, at least could get a job...

I am so sorry you are going through this. I am also going through a difficult time in marriage with an emotionally abusive husband. He has been using such awful language towards me. And, despite being financially independent, I have found it difficult to leave the marriage.

I am sure there are places that can help you, like women’s aid or even Refuge, another charity that helps women in abusive relationships.

Emotional abuse is still abuse! And sounds like your husband is being abusive.

Even if we are still stuck in those marriages, we need to be strong to find a life beyond them. We don’t deserve to be treated like this. You don’t deserve to live like this.

sending you love and strength. May we be brave enough to walk out!!

Please seek out some help via womens aid. They will be able to help you. Love to you xx

I came out of a refuge in recent months.

Please call the National abuse helpline or send them a message on they're website, you can choose how to be contacted back and a time.

It was the best thing I've ever done!
Everything is replaceable, help & support is available

Good luck

Thank you for your kind message. I just don't want my kids to see this... I don't want them to remember these things and he is more and more aggressive, I'm pretty sure one day it will be more than words and that's why I'm in rush, even with huge belly. I simply can't live like that anymore.

Thank you, could you please share more, did they help you with all belongings? I have some appliances - freezer, fridge, etc and I really don't want to leave it to my husband....

@Lostmummy5 that's just 'stuff'.
Your priority needs to be getting out of there pre birth and in one piece.

Hey

Look I left with 1 ruck sack, one teenager and her clothes that was it!

I was given alot of help to get me bk on my feet, I went into refuge to an area of my choice and applied with the local authority for a house which I now have.

You don't have to go into refuge, they'll help you find private rental if that's what you want but I preferred the support in refuge.

Womans Aid will help you.

I left a violent drunk man 7 months pregnant and with a 3 year old. I was in a refuge for 4 months and then rehoused in a different area. This was a long time ago but it's the best thing I ever did.
You can do this.