My ex hasn’t seen our children for a long time, he recently got back in contact wanting to see them.
Fine he came to the house to see them, since we split up 6 years ago he has never once had them over night never even done a school run, nothing, he deliberately created a situation so he was unable to have the children at his house over night meaning I never ever get a night to myself. Im struggling never having a break, since getting back in contact he has made it clear he is still unable to have them overnight (obviously it wouldn’t Have been straight away but built up but no not possible) so I do everything and he may see them for a few hours every couple of weeks. I don’t know why a father wouldn’t want to have their children overnight? I know some people will think I’m lucky and don’t want their kids going away overnight but I’m exhausted and at breaking point. He asked me the other day what I did for new years knowing damn well I did the same thing I do every night, sat in on the sofa alone, it’s almost like he wants to hear that. I’m unable to meet anyone or start again / have a new partner, I have no social life. How can I stop being resentful towards the situation? I want to get on for the kids sake but I find myself resenting him and find it difficult. (Btw I know lots of mums would be happy in my situation and don’t want to “share” the kids so maybe I’m awful for wanting some time to myself occasionally but like I said I’m literally exhausted)