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[Picklybilly88]

So, my previous post was when I found out DH had been messaging a much younger woman and had met her for a drink. She led the flirting during texts but he had intent, he said he didn’t and it was just an ego boost.

We tried to rebuild trust, had counselling, I visited a solicitor in case I needed a plan in place. I was happy to separate and this ‘event’ was probably a blessing to leave the marriage, neither of us are happy, but we did try.

in recent weeks we have become distant again, I am obsessing over what he did which is unhealthy. DH spends a lot of time in bed and does v little to help around our home, DC see it as the norm and is also getting into staying in bed.

I have kept a record of the names DH calls me, most recent being a massive waste of space and a piece of sxxt. DC heard this and was clearly upset but still thinks DH has done nothing wrong. DC is a teen and generally a little difficult at the moment. There was no reason for name call? DH is a drinker.

I just want out…..I think. Gosh I am confused. I want my family happy. I don’t want to leave the home, I have no family nearby.
DH earns 75k and I earn 16k work 31hrs a week. I work hard in fairness and am training for the future to expand my career.

It sounds like the relationship has run it's course and it's dead. You need to figure out how you're going to split assets.

It is, but I did not want a broken home.

That's understandable you didn't want a broken home, no one goes into a marriage or kids thinking they don't want it to last. The alternative is that you stay and stay unhappy, your DC grows up thinking this is the norm and will likely seek or fall into a similar relationship.
Give yourself the advice and patience you would your best friend or DC if they were in your situation.
It'll be a long road either way but it's important you do what's best for you and your happiness. Nothing worse than losing years of your life through fear of the unknown when the outcome is likely inevitable anyways, whether its from you leaving or him seeking out another woman (from what you've said he previously has).
Do you have anyone around you you can talk to?
Or you could give it one last try and seek couples counselling like relate?