My Partner of 23 years has been a drug addict for 5 years.
I have tried leaving but had nowhere to go. I have now been placed on an A band for housing so I can leave, hopefully soon.
He ignores me pretty much all the time and anytime we do converse he's cold and argumentative.
He doesn't pay towards any of the bills or towards anything for our son. He even defaults on the mortgage all the time (that's his only bill, £400 per month).
He sleeps all day rarely getting up for work.
He was taken to court 5 months ago for not paying his mortgage. He was let off and told to repay the debt when he could.
Since then he's not paid the mortgage since and letters keep piling in but he refuses to open them.
He doesnt seem to care that me and his 12 year old son will be put into temporary accommodation if the house is repossessed.
When I try to pleed with him to open the letters he becomes angry.
He borrowed my sons Xmas money to pay off dealers. I am utterly repulsed by him and cannot wait to rehoused. He even smells terrible and has stopped bathing and slobs around the home.
My son cannot understand why we will be moving into a home without his dad. He is upset. I know for sure that my son cannot spend time alone with him once I have left.
He knows because his dad is trying to sell the house before it repossessed so there's a huge sign up outside. He's told his our son that we are all moving far away so I had to reassure my son that me and him are not moving from our home town.
What do I tell my son once weve left? Should I inform him that his dad is a drug addict. I really don't want to hurt him but I also need to tell him why he can't stay with his dad sometimes once we are gone.
It was only yesterday that I found a empty bag of cocaine on the lounge floor with a tiny bit left in there.
How do I approach this with my son when we have left? He will need answers and explanations.
Please help.