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Divorce/separation

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Hand hold... the end of our relationship agreed

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PeanutBellyJam · 27/12/2022 22:29

My husband and I had the very brief discussion about the state of our relationship. He didn't fight for it or seem surprised by the conclusion being we split up. I said I would move out and rent nearby and then I left the table to have a cry in the bath. He blamed me for most of our unhappiness or rather my unhappiness and said there was no point in trying any more counselling because 'he didn't need it' and what would it change... and that is that. And I think I feel like that's everything that's wrong on our marriage summed up. I am damaged and carrying too much emotional baggage and he doesn't want to unpack or understand any of mine or his own. And now we have to try to coparent for the rest of our lives... how did I get myself into this 💔

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otherwayup · 27/12/2022 22:52

Breaking up is tough op! Flowers
Is there any reason why you're moving out and not him? Do you have dc?

otherwayup · 27/12/2022 22:52

Sorry, just seen that you have dc!
Are they coming with you?

Youngatheart00 · 27/12/2022 22:53

Sorry to hear this but you’ve taken the most difficult step and it’s only upwards from here! Much better than being trapped in an unhappy relationship

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 27/12/2022 22:55

I’m so sorry. Although the end of a relationship is so sad, often it’s the low point before things improve. If it’s not working it’s not working.

PeanutBellyJam · 28/12/2022 06:40

otherwayup · 27/12/2022 22:52

Sorry, just seen that you have dc!
Are they coming with you?

The plan for the moment is to attempt to split the kids 2/3 days so I'll look for somewhere to rent nearby so that's possible. DH owned the house we share before we met... i want to keep things as amicable and friendly as possible and I feel me leaving will help that.

Thank you for your messages x

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PeanutBellyJam · 28/12/2022 06:40

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 27/12/2022 22:55

I’m so sorry. Although the end of a relationship is so sad, often it’s the low point before things improve. If it’s not working it’s not working.

I am hoping for this. Thank you

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LarryStyinson · 28/12/2022 06:44

I'm in almost the same boat - trapped in his house. Happy to chat by pm for support if you want.

PicaNewName · 28/12/2022 07:06

We had this conversation (instigated by me) just before Christmas. I'm sorry OP, really.
I don't know how long you've been together but do you really need to go and rent with the children? If things are not very bad at home, I'd seek financial advice first.
In our case, we can't actually split at the moment, I have zero mortgageable income and renting would cost more than that.

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