First Xmas separated so please be kind. Have DD8.
EOW arrangement. Has been offered 50/59 but that doesn't work for him. CM has been sorted, albeit is under investigation for undeclared income.
I don't know if it's just because it's 1st Xmas separated but I've been feeling quite low this month. Thinking back to happier times, and wondering how it got to this.
For context, always had an ok relationship, however things started to go wrong when I returned to work FT 2 years ago. After DD was born, I was PT. DH had to do school pick up, the novelty of this soon wore off as it meant he couldn't do what he wanted until I was home ie go to bed, do homers etc. Resentment bred from both sides. Picking DD up from school was the additional thing he done, nothing else is housework, dinners, bedtimes etc. everything else still fell to me. Weekends were spent at the pub as he had a physical job, no time was wanted to be spent with DD or I. I started to document things last year and that's when I noticed a pattern. Coming in from the pub screaming and throwing things around, demanding I pay 50% of bills (despite earning almost less than half him) and generally making my life a misery. It wasn't worth it to go out as I'd need to set childcare as he would have plans, and I'd to give him advance notice.
Fast forward a month after separation and the threats began. Went to police and cautioned. Now because I can't swap one of his weekends the threats have began re he'll keep DD. Again police notified.
Has anyone else had anything similar and got through it? This is never the life I wanted for me or DD and just can't get my head round how on earth it's got to this