Ex told my daughter I’m a bully

[StarGazingGirl]

In the process of divorcing. Have had to basically impose (though a solicitor) a timetable for the kids for christmas as he ignored my emails about it for weeks. Shortly after this happened, DC5 has told me daddy has told her I am a bully. She asked if that was right. I’m devastated that he would say that. There is a history of emotional abuse but now the kids are being dragged into it I can’t believe it. I thought leaving would make things better but it’s worse than ever. I feel broken. Just looking for any support.

Hey am also going through similar , emotional abuse which he is now rubbishing my claims of & all sorts , it's more of a bitter break up then I ever could have imagined , my mum said it's worse now than when you were together so what you said really resonates

How many kids do have together ? Do you have supportive friends /family?

What a horrible thing to put on your child's shoulders. You could get support from women's aid if he's using the kids to hurt you. You could also link in social services as bad mouthing a parent and trying to interrupt a parent child relationship that's otherwise healthy is emotionally abusive towards the child as well as the parent. You did absolutely the right thing letting go of this relationship.

If he was abusive you need to be honest to her about it. A quick daddy wasn’t very nice to me, he often said mean things is enough. She needs to be prepared because abusers often turn it onto their kids - if she knows about it she’s more likely to talk to you about it