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Crying1234 · 24/11/2022 20:43

Please can I have some help. I feel absolutely broken and don’t know what to do. My husband has been addicted to prescribed medication for years and kept promising he would stop. He’s on his second box of 32 neurofen plus in 24 hours . He’s been off work for about 4 weeks now because he can’t function. He has depression and anxiety. For years everything resolves around him getting his medication. He’s emotionally abusive when he runs out of his medication. I have 3 young teenagers. I want him to leave but he keeps shouting he wants his money. I’ve asked him to find a flat to rent while I sort out the divorce and try and buy him out. He’s emotionally abusive to me and the children. They are scared of being alone with him. He threatens to commit suicide. I hate myself for not divorcing him sooner - I don’t think I’ll ever forgive myself for putting my children through this. Can I do anything to get him to leave? Can I remortgage and try and buy him out before the divorce so I can get him his half? When I spoke to the solicitor last year she said that he would probably get 50% but he says he can’t afford child maintenance, can you negotiate to get a higher share and then have no CM? I have already spoken to women’s aid and I’ve tried to call the solicitor but they are slow at calling back.

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Crying1234 · 25/11/2022 12:48

Anyone have any advice? Thank you.

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salcombebabe · 25/11/2022 12:50

I’m sorry but I have no advice, I’m sure someone will come along soon though with some good advice. Just wanted to send you a hug 🤗, be strong xx

HappyHamsters · 25/11/2022 12:56

That sounds somdifficult, I dont know how you can get him to leave if its his house too, did you call womens aid ir are you waiting for them to call you back. If he is abusing you and your children and they are scared of him could the police or childrens safeguarding at social services help. Are either of you getting any support through his addiction, does his gp know he is addicted and getting through so much nurofen plus. Do you have friends or family to support you at all.

waterSpider · 25/11/2022 14:17

He may not get as much as half ... but could get so close to it that it doesn't really matter, esp if your advice is already close to that. Keep in mind that values of pensions (savings, cars) also need to be considered.

Whilst I think there are often well-intentioned reasons to try to offer low/no child maintenance, there's nothing to stop you claiming full child maintenance a year down the road, so that wouldn't be sensible for him to accept.

Crying1234 · 25/11/2022 15:23

Thank you all. He’s not getting help but he has said he’ll try and go to a NA meeting. He’s been acting really forgetful and slurry for a month but all his tests came back normal. I wonder now if it’s the neurofen doing it all as he acts quite normal at certain times of the day. What a mess.

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HappyHamsters · 25/11/2022 16:01

What prescription drugs is he on. He is taking far too much codeine which could make him drowsy and slurry, he really needs to get off them. What tests did he have, I doubt they included opiates.

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