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Divorce/separation

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Is it strange to leave and go to my Mums...

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EmsEms · 22/11/2022 07:30

I am very close to making the decision yo leave my Husband. We have 2 children 8 and 9 and the relationship is controlling and very toxic for the children. We are always 2nd guessing his mood and I'm not sure I can live my life like this.
We are comfortable at the moment but he earns around 20k more than me so I wouldn't be able to get a place straight away.
Does anyone know what happens if I went to live with my Mum for a bit first in terms of house/children?
I would obviously still be responsible for half of the mortgage payments? Also would the kids live with me at my Mums 50% of the time? Worried they will see it as I have left the home and Dad's still there and I haven't got my own home.
Sorry if this doesn't make mush sense, after some opinions or experience of anyone who has left to go to family members instead of to a new home.

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Potluck22 · 22/11/2022 08:40

Sorry it sounds v stressful. It may make it harder to get house sold and financial order done if you have left. It can remove the impetus from the party who is still in the house...who could then delay and drag things out if they are spiteful. Also it would be disruption for your children so the better scenario would be getting your current husband to move out..

Maybe think about going to see a solicitor for advice on what a likely settlement would be.

Starlightstarbright1 · 22/11/2022 08:50

How far away is mum ? How old are children.

It is definitely worth legal advice before doing anything

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