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Divorce/separation

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Post separation friendships and lack of support

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Grapesvine · 20/11/2022 10:21

I've had a couple of friends reach out and support me throughout this separation from my husband. I've been off work with stress and I'm just about holding it together for the children.

Two of my closer friends however (who have a history of monologing at the best of times) are now confiding in me their own marital problems and I'm only 3 weeks out of my marriage. I'm getting long texts every day asking for advice, and on meeting up with them, they've spent the whole time telling me all of their marriage troubles as if I'm some sort of guru on the matter now that I've left.

I'm already drained by my own troubles and I just feel so disappointed that these "friends" are completely missing the obvious right now and that I'm in need of support instead of them burdening me with their own marriage problems! I'm shocked tbh. Did anyone else come across this from friends post-separation?!

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Lingles · 20/11/2022 10:24

Let them know the truth - and suggest going to cinema or even better theatre together as otherwise it will seem like a rejection.

all the best

Lingles · 20/11/2022 10:26

…..reply saying “I’m sorry I just don’t know- I think it’s all too close to home for me still. Shall we go distract ourselves from our problems? They’re showing X at the Y”
or something like that.

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