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Domestic abuse, struggling

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Nikki3009 · 07/11/2022 19:44

Hi, My DD has recently gone off to uni, she was always worried about leaving me with her Dad as I’ve suffered at his hands for many years. At the beginning of October he was put on notice of redundancy, this led to him drinking even more excessively than usual and in a completely unprovoked attack he physically and verbally assaulted me at 1.30 in the morning because I’d fallen asleep in my daughters bedroom. I told him that I’d had enough and wanted to separate, and a week later he threatened to take his own life. He subsequently took an overdose in a busy public car park which meant the police came to my door. I broke down and told them of the abuse I’d been subjected to and when he was released from hospital they told him not to return to the family home.
im now just having such a hard time, I feel very alone, I don’t have friends due to being isolated by him. My daughter had been my main focus but she’s having such a great time at uni, including starting a new relationship that shes barely looked back!
I feel very sad, lonely and don’t really know how to get myself out of this hole. My daughter is being supported by her new friends and boyfriend and whilst I’m so pleased for her, I also feel like I don’t have any support or anyone to talk to. I don’t want to put my problems/feelings onto her but I definitely need to get things off my chest. I come home from work everyday to an empty house and I’m feeling like I could easily falter in my determination to stay away from him.
Thank you for reading, sorry it’s a downer. I know it’s an awful thing to say but I feel very shut out of my DD’s life right now and I’m struggling with that too!

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Toomanysleepycats · 07/11/2022 20:52

After a few months I started reaching out to my friends. Some I hadn’t been in regular touch with as I had isolated my self partly due to similar abuse. They have been extraordinarily kind.

Im also using MN as therapy and have been posting all over it like a rash.

Lastly, I have gone back to private therapy. They all help a little

My Dd has moved away, and like you I know I can’t burden her.it is hard. If your Dd has only just left then part of it might be empty nest syndrome but you have the double whammy of missing her support.

Write down all the bad stuff about him, and refer to it when you are feeling weak.

myexisawanker · 07/11/2022 22:07

I'm so glad you are out of that relationship but I know it's not all plain sailing and celebrating when a Da rship ends.

Sounds cliche but can you find something new to do? I joined my local wi. A very young group and it'd been great. So many things to do. I know it's not a fix but social stuff, new people might help.

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