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Ex husband trouble

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Hardij · 02/11/2022 12:39

I separated with my ex back in aug 2021 and we got divorced in July . He was on dating site, speaking to other women and generally not a nice person. For the past 8-9 months he has constantly bombarded me with nasty messages, moved in the same street , watches my car ,followed me and stood in front of my car shouting and kicking my car. He drinks constantly and just makes me feel extremely uncomfortable.My daughter is still in school and he is demanding money from me to buy him out . I’ve recently found out that my mail redirection was due to him putting on the form it was a family move so sometimes I don’t get mail for ages until he brings it over. He doesn’t make any effort with his daughter and stopped paying child maintenance weeks ago. I have now gone through child maintenance to get some money off him but my online account says I’m entitled to £0. He earns a good wage . I’ve rang them and they’ve said to wait for a letter and if I disagree with anything after that I can appeal. Not sure if I’ll get that letter as my post was redirected . I’ve had police involvement but asked them to just give him warnings as it would be embarrassing for the kids if their dad ended up in court over all this. I’ve blocked him on everything, including text now as I can’t take anymore of it. I only left text open as a line of communication about the kids, but that is blocked now too. Anyone else had experience of this and does it eventually settle , do they get fed up and just stop. Any advice would be appreciated

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sophmum31 · 02/11/2022 20:14

What a horrible situation for you and I’m sorry it’s like this. In my experience it calmed a bit but didn’t stop. Mine was similar, spying on me and shouting the odds. I applied for a non molestation order which was granted by the courts and he isn’t allowed to come near the house now. The peace of mind it has given me is worth every bit of pain there was to get there. I no longer sit in fear! That would mean the police arrest him if he breaks it, not just have a word!

with the CMS the letters they send will go into your online account as well as by post so keep your eye on that. It does take time, I applied in the October and he didn’t have to pay anything until the very beginning of January, they do back pay to when you made the claim.

Hardij · 02/11/2022 23:32

Hi there,
im glad your awful situation has come to an end. It’s draining isn’t it. I tend to put a bit of a face on and say it doesn’t really bother me anymore but I just wish he’d move as it literally makes me feel so tense when I see him. He has said some really vile hurtful things . I’ll find out about that order and see it can be applied if he lives in the same street. Thank you so much for your advice with this it’s greatly appreciated x

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