NCed for this but am a regular.
I left my husband a few months ago. He was shocked and devastated.
Since that time I have not regretted it at all for my own sake. I don't miss him and know that I no longer love him. There were many aspects of the relationship that I wasn't happy with. We'd been together for 20 years and it had always been up and down.
But it wasn't a relationship that was all bad by any means. There were lots of good things and high compatibility. I've now started thinking about this. My husband thinks we should have tried to put it right but my argument is that we'd been trying for the whole 20 years.
I feel a bit confused. I know I don't want him back but I also know for him and for the kids everything is worse.
Really I want to ask whether others have had these confusing feelings too.