So I’m here now out after some advice. I’ve been with my partner for 15 years. Two sons age 10 and 5. To cut a very long story short, I’ve just had enough of the constant battle, the arguing, even though I try my best and try to please everyone, it’s never good enough. His family are the top of his priorities and I’m the bottom even though they don’t care that much! They just please themselves! He has anxiety and makes everything all about him, he won’t go anywhere on his own, the kids have to go with him to the shop that’s about all he does. Other than the OCD around the home that drives me mad cause again what I do isn’t good enough. I do everything in the house and outside, if it wasn’t for me we wouldn’t do anything. He’s very sensitive and take everything very personally, I don’t think relationship counselling would work, and again it would be something that I have to organise and drive to etc. The trouble I have now is that I want to separate neither of us are happy, it’s been 2 years since we had any kind of sexual relationship and other than that it’s a polite kiss on the cheek to ease his anxiety when he goes to work ‘in case anything bad happens’. How do I leave when we have a mortgage and children. I don’t think I would get a mortgage on my own due to working part time and there isn’t any houses to rent in the area and I don’t think I’d be able to get on the council list, as if we sell the house I’d have too much money possibly. I need to find that out. Feels like a lose lose situation. For those that have split how does it work with shared parenting I can’t see how this would work with his shift work, it would still be me making sacrifices. He’s made it clear that he won’t let me stay in the house with the children until they are older, we aren’t married. Or do I stay here trying to save as much as I can until I’m in a position to get a mortgage on my own? I tried to leave before and he made it difficult then and was in a lose lose situation, so I gave in and came back. I just feel soo stuck and unhappy.