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Consent order - advice/experience please

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AllOfTheDwarves · 25/10/2022 10:07

Hi I'm looking for some advice for my BF on proposed consent order.
This has been going back and forth between them for years.
I'd be grateful for any opinions/experiences on this situation.
Married 14 years. 2 kids. W has kids most often, H has them 2-3 nights per week.
H salary (net) pcm - 2.2k, W is lower at 1.6k but she is currently retraining so will go up, H salary will not.
Both mid-40s.
House to be sold. Equity 106k (minus selling fees, mortgage paid off etc).
Pension CETV H: 16k per year, W:8k per year (but now on NHS pension scheme so should be better - this projection was based on old pension).
After a lot of back and forth, W has now come back with: H 20k from house (meaning W will get 86k), H shares 33.7% of pension (this was on actuary report, but based on 50/50 split of house equity. Percentage should go down 3.3% for every 10k of equity 'given up'), £500pcm child maintenance (calculator says £351).
H is fine with the extra child maintenance and taking less equity from the house as her need is greater and he wants his children to be provided for etc however feels that the pension should drop down accordingly as per the actuary report as this won't benefit the children. W is also keeping all furniture etc in the former matrimonial home.
I think that's everything. Would be really grateful for opinions. Does this seem fair? Thanks.

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Dinnerfor4 · 25/10/2022 13:06

How old are the children? He isn’t on a particularly high wage so I would be surprised if a judge ruled that split, I think your husband should ask for £30k to £40k as a minimum. I wouldn’t agree to extra child maintenance you never know when he could come into financial hardship. Pay minimum and he can pay her extra as and when he can. Do you have a solicitor?

AllOfTheDwarves · 25/10/2022 15:04

Hi they are 10 and 14. He would rather take less equity and retain more pension as the pension won't benefit the children whereas the equity will. He does have a solicitor who he will be speaking to today, I was just looking for thoughts/experience. Thanks for your comment

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