Solicitors appointment today

[EmmaMarie18]

Been so anxious waiting for today and now after my solicitors appointment I feel even more anxious and scared with the back lash I'll probably have!!

We're selling our house which is joint mortgage (we're not married) the solicitor told me it's 50/50 split but he's asked for his deposit back first before the remainder of the equity is split! Even though I contributed to the deposit too he didn't mention tha 🤯 the solicitor told me as his deposit wasn't secured/contract drawn up safeguarding it in the event we sell the house, it's 50/50 split and even if it went to court that's what would be awarded...I know he'll hit the roof!

I've been amicable with child contact and very reasonable (considering how much I hate his cheating ass)

I did speak to the solicitor about my concerns with my child going to my ex's mother's and being left unsupervised! His mother is protecting his brother who's being investigated for historical sexual assault on a child 😳 she's denying to my ex that she sees or speaks to his brother but she told me ages ago that she does he'd even rang her when he'd been arrested!!!

I'm just concerned that my child would be there when he turns up..I don't think im being unreasonable but again I know they'll kick off over that and what I've instructed!

To top it off I had a phone call today to say that my ex is moving in with a friend who has been to prison for rape 🤯🤯 I honestly don't know if I'm coming or going

My anxiety is through the roof and every day I struggle without this added stress 😔 just don't know what to do anymore

You can't risk them going to your mil, surely?

@coodawoodashooda I've told my ex under no circumstances he leaves him there without being with him

His mother has flat out lied and denied any contact with the brother but ive got messages from her showing she does but hes been sucked in by her lies again

I'm living on my nerves but so scared if I say he can't go there he'll take me to court for joint custody as hes made threats he would 😔 he's a control freak!

Legally it’s 50:50. But you could also agree between you to deduct his deposit - goes to him

deduct your deposit - goes to you

remainder split 50:50
that would be fair - why aren’t you doing that.

@millymollymoomoo because he's taken the p*%s out of me for years...where do I start lol

When i first moved in with him I gave him money every month TOWARDS bills I've recently found out what I was giving him for a year covered his monthly mortgage, council tax, water, gas and electric bills and he had a bit spare and basically pocketed his wages every month but always said he was skint

Then when we moved I was paying £1,000 a month into our joint towards bills and he paid £675 which just about covered his half then out of what was left he paid his mother every month for his car without as much as a discussion

I had inheritance after losing my dad and he made me give it to his mother as he owed her money

Then I sorted christmas for the 3 kids (including his son from a previous) he never contributed to christmas for 4 years

He's had I dont know how much money out of our joint account always said he'd pay it back but didnt

He's hidden thousands in a premium bond and told his son not to tell me

My birthday last year he apologised he couldnt buy me much (Even tho I just prefer cards and chocolates little things) but then found his bank statement with hundreds tucked away..tha hurt 😔

He's never done a food shop since I lived with him

On one occasion he was going to the shop he asked if I needed anything and we needed baby milk at the time..he demanded my bank card and refused to get it as soon as I said that's what I needed because of the price 🤯

I just feel he's just taken me for a mug! I know you pay for things in a relationship but it was always me 😔

He's like it even when it comes to our child! He spent hundreds on his eldest from his previous for his birthday..our little one had a £20 football kit..that was his entire contribution to his birthday

He's controlling in so many ways but when it came to money that was a whole different level