Maintaining the moral high ground

[Bluebaron1]

My wife and I separated about a year ago. She has a new partner. I do not. We still live together in the marital home with our three grown-up children 17/19/22.

I’m away a lot of business and so when home I stay in the main bedroom as she stays in the spare bedroom and when I’m away she invites her new partner over and they share the main bedroom together.
we both have a good wage although mine is about 50% more than her and I continue to pay 100% of all the household bills/Tesco etc and so her income is 100% disposable for her needs.
she recently offered to contribute 50% (£750) towards the household bills. I can easily afford not to take this money but feel that I should as now we are separated we should contribute equally to running the household whilst we sort out our divorce.

Should I accept this money on principle or continue to pay the bills and maintain the moral high ground?

So she gets in your bed with her boyfriend when you're away? Did I read that correctly? If so, I wouldn't like that at all.

Yes, you should take her 50% share of the cost of running the house. Its not about if you can afford to not take it rather, there is no reason why you should be paying her keep

There's no morals at stake in this issue. Its not like she can't afford the bills for herself

There’s a lot to be said for the moral high ground, but I can’t see how you think you’re getting it by paying her way in life for her while she’s shagging someone else.

This cannot be for real. Your ex wife shags her new partner in your bed while you're away with work, and you pay all household and grocery costs, and you're wondering if you should accept a contribution to the running costs of the house? What an absolute doormat you're being. This must be a joke post.

Can you be my next ex husband please?

Oh dear I do feel a little bit walked over now!

this all started when she said I wasn’t supportive enough and I mentioned I was still paying for everything. I also happens to say I was supportive of her new partner (girlfriend, not that it matters), and letting her stay over and the response was:

‘You still allow xxxxxx to come over when you’re away?’
Not quite sure who you think you are?? 😂

feel a bit a prat now. 😕

🤣🤣

Not the point of your post but if I ABSOLUTELY had to live with my ex I would be in the spare room with a lock on the door for when I'm not there. In no way would I want to share a bed or pay a penny more than I absolutely HAD to.

You are a mug

Why do you still share a house? If you're both financially stable I recommend cutting ties and getting your own place(s), this set up is too weird

Sell the house! Don’t mistake the moral high ground for being an utter chump. Would you be tolerating this ridiculous farce if it was a man she was shagging in your bed? Is that what’s going on?

You need to sell the house and get your own places and stop paying for her.

This situation cannot be good for your children.

no-brainer, accept the cash.
living arrangements are a little strange, but each to their own.

Thanks all,

I took the money, just to clarify I can't sell the house right now due to a legal issue that will take 12-18 months to resolve. I guess one of us could move out but thats £2000 a month sort of wasted so if we can make it work then all the better.

complicated world we all live in, I need to find a new girlfriend! 😉