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Divorce/separation

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OW has moved in - agreement from lawyer?

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Adamclaytonisfine · 10/10/2022 15:58

Hi all

So my xh moved out at the start of July and was in temp accommodation until this week. Our kids (8 and 10) haven't even seen his new place and he tells me his new gf is moving in. Do I have a leg to stand on about her meeting them? If as he says it started after he left, it's only been 3 months and I think it is too soon for her to meet my children. I don't want people in and out of their lives as they are still getting used to us being separated.

Will a lawyer draft an agreement to say that he needs to see them without her? Or do I just need to be the bigger person and trust they will understand? I will never stop him seeing them but I suffer with my mental health and I know he will just make me out to be a crazy jealous ex.

Any help is appreciated. Thanks

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mountaindewview · 10/10/2022 19:14

Adamclaytonisfine · 10/10/2022 18:58

What about her telling them off etc if they are there? Is she allowed to take them out in her car or discipline them?

I'm absolutely not trying to be difficult. I've also gone on a few dates but ex would absolutely flip out if I had moved another man in, not that I would or even want to.

If he allows it then she can do those things.

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 10/10/2022 19:14

Unfortunately there is nothing that can actually be done, even with expensive lawyers brokering a deal, he still has to agree to it. It is sad the number of men who shit all over their children to keep their penis happy. The only thing you can do is be honest with your children, tell them plainly (without judgement) what is happening, so they know they can talk to you about it.

Frankola · 10/10/2022 20:28

I'd give her a dose of reality and chuck a bucket of cold water on their "new love" by having the kids around 😂

zgirldreamsoftulum · 10/10/2022 21:51

TheFormidableMrsC · 10/10/2022 16:16

My ex-husband's solicitor told him an absolute minimum of 6 months. However, there is nothing to stop him doing what he wants unless there is a potential safeguarding issue. So sorry, it stinks and they make me sick, trying to normalise their grubby affairs but doing the "look at us, happy families" parade. Never mind how the children might feel. Selfish cunts.

This! So grubby

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