Christmas

[LDA123]

This is our first Christmas separated and I’m feeling very anxious about the whole thing.

I made a proposal to ex a week ago and he has just totally blanked me. I know it’s only Oct but I just wish I knew what we were doing so I can make plans and get my head around everything. I imagine he is probably getting some satisfaction in not replying.

I have proposed I have the children Xmas Eve / Xmas morning until 12pm and then he has them (at his Mums, same as every year) 12pm Xmas Day to 12pm Boxing Day and then they come home again. And then alternate the following year.

What does everyone else do? Finding the whole thing quite upsetting to tell you the truth.

Last year was our first Christmas since separating and to try to make it easier for the children we spent Christmas day all together with some other family too. It was ok and felt like a normal Christmas for the kids but I certainly wouldn't want to do that every year. I'm not too sure what we'll do this year, I'm thinking maybe ex comes over Christmas morning to see the kids open their presents and then goes to his family, then he had them boxing day. We're about to start mediation so holidays/Christmas/birthdays is something we will need to discuss and try to agree an approach to.