Hi, hopefully someone will be able to reassure me about my situation if possible.
Second marriage for both of us, no children. We don't have a property, I have social housing and husband has moved to his own place. I cashed in my pension when I had health problems, husband has a small final salary pension which tbf, he had during his first marriage. Our savings are in his private pension. I have disability benefits he has a job, self employment and his pension.
We had an agreement that a chunk of the money in his pension would be transferred to me because they are our joint savings. It's proving difficult to get the pension company to agree to implementing a Minute of Agreement once we've divorced. I suggested H just withdraws the amount in cash and we share the tax burden. He clearly doesn't want to do this and has twice offered me more money to not do that. What am I missing?
I won't start the divorce until the pension company agrees that they are able to implement the MoA because there's only a 4 week window between the divorce being granted and getting the paperwork to the pension company to start the process. I don't want to be wrangling with them at that point.
Why on earth would he keep offering me more not to take the pension in cash? The only thing I can think of is that I said I would implement the divorce because I'm on UC and it would be cheaper for me. Is he worried I won't do that if I get the cash? It would cost him more to divorce me but surely that can't be it. Am I missing anything? (I could just ask him but he's not an honest man).