I am divorced. A journey beginning and ending in tears.

[Sunshineandflipflops]

Just that really. Separated almost 5 years ago, started divorce proceedings 18 months ago and just had my decree absolute through.

My exh had an affair, which was the reason for divorce (although we decided to wait and go no blame for ease and for our dc).

I woke up to the DA in my inbox, with my partner of 3 years and I cried.
Partly out of relief after a long, emotional, expensive process and partly sadness. I know it was the right thing to do but I never wanted to be divorced (who does I guess) and I still feel sad that what was once such a happy marriage full of hope ended the way it did.

Thankfully my partner is understanding and I did apologise for getting upset. He has been through the whole thing with me and been very patient.

I never expected to be celebrating the legal end of my marriage but my response took me by surprise a little.

I will be celebrating the end of solicitors bills though once me buying my ex out of the house completes!

My DA arrived yesterday also, 8 year marriage ended with an email. I expected to cry but so far, nothing.

Mine was not a happy marriage far from it but I grieved for the future I never had and the promises that weren’t kept. So yes it’s a grief process.

Think of it as closure OP. It's your body releasing grief for all the hopes and dreams that didn't come to be, and the disappointment he caused you. You've released it and now can move on with planning a lovely future with your partner. X

You deserved better OP.

I hope your ex is miserable and regrets it.

Thank you everyone, that means a lot. Wising bright futures to everyone else recently divorced x