I'm going through a drawn out divorce and because H is deliberately delaying things as much as he can and we're jointly spending a fortune on solicitors/the process.
He doesn't want to have to move out of the family home so this is his motive for dragging things out. Given how much money we've had to spend to get to this stage, our savings are almost gone now. He hasn't worked through choice for some time now, (since not long after the divorce proceedings started) as he believes this will mean he will be seen to need a bigger share of the pot of marital assets so will benefit him financially. He's saying he has mental/physcial health issues so can't work any more but isn't seeking any GP confirmation of these or treatment . We really can't afford to run a second home for him.
He's been verbally aggressive for years now and there have been pushing/shoving incidences from him too, much more since the divorce process started.
Late the other night I was sitting at the kitchen table (because I can't bear to be in the lounge with him) watching a film on my ipad when he came into the kitchen and as he passed behind my chair he he pushed forcefully against the back of my head with his hand, if I hadn't braced the muscles, I'd have had my head forced forwards into the table/ipad. He did the same thing when he left the kitchen and twice more when he came back and forth again later. (I was stupidly in denial that he'd do it again each time) It was briefly painful each time.
The next evening I started to feel that my neck muscles are aching and I couldn't get particularly comfortable with my pillows that night due to this. 24 hours later and I'm still feeling it.
I suspect it's related to having to tense the neck muscles up to avoid him slamming my head forward in to the table. Obviously there's nothing to be seen and no way of proving the discomfort to anyone, it's just my word against his that it happened at all.
Is there a way of reporting this so that I can refer back to it should I need to in the future but without getting him a record which might prevent him gaining employment if it finally dawns on him that he's going to have to support himself after the divorce goes through ? Like I say, we really can't afford to run 2 homes and I don't want the kids mentally scarred/embarrassed to see him living the life of a homeless person. His parents are not an option for somewhere to live as they're in sheltered accomodation already and he has no siblings or friends who would take him in.