Post separation control

[Doingmyheadin22]

NC

Separated from ex a couple of years now. But he’s making my life a misery with abusive texts and slandering me to our children. Has anyone experienc of this and what did u do to help stop it? I now have a Solictor on the case but wondering will it ever stop even with legal input

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Hey OP, no ideas on how to stop it but just to say I'm one year post-separation from very long term partner and he's been increasingly cruel since we split even though he instigated. Hopefully more of experienced people will
come along soon and advise you. I'll be watching as I'm feeling quite broken by ex's behaviour.

Hello just to let you know there is an imminent change to the domestic abuse act 2021 where post separation abuse will be added to controlling and coercive behaviour as a criminal offence so this may be something for you to read up on hope this helps. So it may be that if you are getting nowhere with the civil courts to stop the abuse you can progress through the police.

Set up an email and tell him all communication regarding the children is to be emailed only. Then block his phone. Only check the email a couple of times a week. That should give you some breathing space.

You can't stop him badmouthing you but you can certainly explain to the children that daddy doesn't like you anymore and when people don't like a person they say nasty things, doesn't mean they are true. Then ignore (if possible).

Be patient ime. 2 of our 3 dc went nc with him after years of hearing his thoughts on me. .. I remember one about 10 telling me he knew df hated me more than he loved them.. Oddly that dc was too far 'gone' to repair our relationship.. Very sadly exh had done too much damage.
The other 2 see him very rarely. He isn't a df figure anymore.