How to naviate splitting and life

[Runaround50]

How do people do it?
Making the decision to split and keep life going at the same time?
I have decided that a split between myself and long term partner, is the best way forward now. I am going to move out.
Haven't told the teen kids yet.
No idea how the finances are going to work, but will have to work it all out this weekend. My job is low paid, but I need it for sanity and an income.

Someone tell me that all will be okay eventually.

It is meant to be Navigate

I can’t really offer any advice as am at the start of my journey but I hope it will be ok… we are telling the kids this weekend and I move out the end of the month.

I have just concentrated on filling my weekends with catching up with family and friends to keep my sanity.

I think maybe don’t focus on keeping things the same - they won’t be, and hopefully that’s a good thing.

be honest with yourself about things that could be harder and think about how you can get round that - but think most about what will be easier, and the positive ways it will change your life.
if it helps I’ve not met someone who choose to leave who ever retreats it later, once the dust had settled.

I have today told my partner of 12 years that I will be moving out. We have 2 young children. But it has to be done. My thought process is that my relationship is crap, I’ve spent years worrying over the “what ifs” and the “fear of change” and worrying about finances, but all that kind of thinking does is just keeps me in this hostile relationship. Of course we shouldn’t be silly and out put ourselves on the streets but we need to remember that we are not the only women who have ended a relationship because it’s bad for us, it happens everyday and those women cope! We all know a woman who has separated from a long term partner of husband and they’re okay! We can’t allow a worry to trap us on relationships that make us unhappy.

Thanks everyone. I feel a bit more positive now.
The trouble is, I want to move closer to my parents, who are 150 miles away, but I don't to be that far away from the kids ( 17 and 14) either.

I need to put a plan together and start implementing bits at a time.

Also, family pets.. where will they go?

@Flowerpot101 your advice is sound, Thankyou.
Where will you go when you move out?