Abusive ex won't fill out form E

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Hello,

I am getting divorced from someone very abusive and very clever. He has been horrendous to me and the children and is and now is trying to disappear. He sends me lot of disjointed abusive messages and threats. We never had shared finances and so my estimate of what we've got is a guess. We are not wealthy, really down the bottom end of things.

Anyway, he has refused to fill out the form E, which discloses finances, and this means the next steps are either taking him to court or settling for an informal agreement, based on information he supplies that is likely to be lies.

What do you think I should do? I am so, so tired and traumatised by him that taking him to court is extremely unappealing. Has anyone done this and got vastly more than they otherwise would have done? I'd like to hear other experiences. I'm at the point where I'd pay him to just go away.

Ugh.

Depends on how much you think there is and whether this makes a material difference to the outcome balanced by Cost (£ plus plus mental ) going more formal court route and time that takes

wnat is the offer now and based on the experience of your marriage do you think there is a material discrepancy

I don’t think there’s a lot, yes it’s more the mental strain on me that might now be worth the effort. Dealing with his nonsense nearly cost me my sanity and my life.

My question to you is easy... why do you think he refusing to sign this?
You know why.

I am so sorry and totally empathise with the fact you are going through this.

I do know why but I am just trying to size up if it is worth it/I can face it

Right. I really DO understand your position as I am in exactly the same position (albeit abroad) it is horrendous but you must hang tight.

You can face it. He is banking on you NOT facing it. even if it is to show him whose boss, face it stand up to him. How DARE he not proclaim his earnings/tax?

I have also become ill over it. Honestly. I really do understand.
Take care xxx

Family court immediately.

I know it's daunting but legally your XH only has to declare on the form E, the last 12 months of transactions.

Refusing to fill in the form E often means they are trying to string it out until the items they have disposed of disappear legally.

Don't waste a minute. Get the forms off now.

I'm sorry you are suffering the same. Did your ex also refuse? How long do you have to go with it?

Morning!

Here, it is slightly different but amounts to exactly the same thing.
Husband is delaying and delaying. He is not prepared to disclose tax etc. The problem is, everything stopped in Spain for the month of August. It has been 5 months now, I know he has already liquidated his assets and hidden them abroad.

I have complete faith that some of this will be made clear. But we will see, he has until next week, I believe. But, may come up with an "offer" for me to avoid doing the earnings/tax. The "offer" will give some indication of what he is hiding.

I am not interested in ALL his money, just what is fair for me and DD.

I honestly think you should not give up on this.

I know how exhausted you are, how isolating it all is. How physically weak you actually get. I eat too little and drink too much.

They know it, we have the Dcs through all this. Stick to your guns and @toooldtocarewhoknows is correct, it certainly seems that is what is going on in my case.

The fact you say your husband is very clever and abusive seems to indicate to me, there is much more to hid. IMHO.

You can divorce without reaching financial settlement. It's not advised as it opens you up to future claims. That said if there are few assets then potentially this is an option. You could call his bluff and tell him you'll go ahead without consent order, might galvanise him into action. The thought that you may come after him and his assets in the future might be enough to get him to complete form E

@gingertoast has a brilliant suggestion!