How to tell child about divorce

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So DH has has left/is leaving - he left but then came back to sort out a place to live and so on.

Telling our oldest who is 5 has been left to me

So I need some ideas of what the hell im supposed to say really

sorry youre going through this- no real advice really but he should definitely be there so you both can make it very clear that is nothing to do with your child.gpod luck

This shouldn't be left to you - as the messenger your child might feel their dad has just gone and doesn't care about them anymore and/or blame you for their dad leaving. You both need to be there to reassure them and explain to them what is going to happen, where dad will be and when they will see him.

Thanks both

Unfortunately he didn't stick around to do it together. He'd already packed his stuff and gone - noticeably so when I got home with the children so I had to tell our eldest. Plus she knew something was wrong. I think I did it as sensitively as possible - basically said sometimes daddy's and mummy's don't live together anymore and daddy is going to have his own place where she can visit/stay and that he loves her just the same etc

Heart wrenching

His final act of cowardice.

I ended up having to tell my daughter about the divorce as her dad was too cowardly. I just said we decided we would be better just being friends rather than being married and that he would get his own place and still see him a lot. It was tough