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Should I leave my husband?

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Bromley94 · 30/08/2022 12:36

Me (28) and DH (32) have been together for 10 years married for 7. We have no children despite going through multiple rounds of IVF and we rent our house no mortgage.

Lately I feel like I want to walk away, we were young when got married and I feel like we aren’t the same people we once were. We’ve been through a lot but I feel like I’ve grown as a person and feel trapped in our marriage. I dream of being free of everything and being able to travel by myself without having to give reasons why I’m leaving but I’m unsure if these are just silly dreams! He’s an great person but it’s like we’re just roommates. I love him a lot he’s my best friend but I’m not in love with him anymore. we’ve lost our connection, there wasn’t a massive amount of intimacy from the beginning and sex is once in a blue moon even if I try to initiate it. He’s not a massive fan of being touched and finds it hard to express his feelings. I suffer with anxiety and depression and have done since I was young which doesn’t particularly help with me feeling detached.

I’ve spoken to DH about how I feel and he admitted he needs me more than I need him and that he wants to work on us and doesn’t want to lose me but I feel like I’m one foot out the door. He thinks going out for dinner and sex is the solution to our problems but it doesn’t fix the loss of intimacy.

should I be fighting harder for him?

OP posts:
Ginger1982 · 30/08/2022 12:54

Only you can answer that. You're still young. Would you be able to have children with someone else (ie with whom does the problem lie?) If you're not in love with him it's not really fair on either of you to stay.

beachcitygirl · 30/08/2022 13:56

You were very very young when you got together. You desire freedom & passion &!fun after all you've been through.
I hate to say it but I believe you should
Leave, in a state of friendship & love before it turns nasty or to affairs.
Kiss him goodbye & fly high solo for a while. Xx

britneyisfree · 30/08/2022 14:40

Yes I think you probably end it.

Wnikat · 30/08/2022 14:48

You're too young to settle for this. Move on. He'll be fine. You'll be happier.

rita12345 · 30/08/2022 15:06

Yes. You are so young. You have no
Kids or home to split so go for it

Your life is just beginning! Be happy

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