Hi guys..
i just wondered whether anyone had ever been in the same situation as I am in at the moment .. I’m looking for advice, please.
After 19 years of being with my husband and two children (one 15 one 9) I don’t think I can be with him anymore.. he’s a lovely man, but his communication is dreadful.. very little conversation.. he hasn’t taken me for dinner since last November.. mostly because we argue whenever we are out.. because he relies on me to entertain him and I’m so bored of having nobody to chat to…
last week we decided to go for dinner this coming Friday.. just the two of us.. until he pretty much told me what he wanted me to wear and to wear no undies… it actually made me feel really crap about myself as that’s what motivates him to be nice and do nice things..sex..
if he goes more than a week or two (I always help in other ways) without sex, he goes moody and off with me until we have it again ..than he is nice..
im 46.. we have a son who has autism and I love him to bits.. but he is hard work and has put a lot of strain on our marriage. My husband who I also think is on the spectrum doesn’t seem to understand our son or want to and that causes arguments.. he dotes on our daughter though.
Since we have been married my husband has been in and out if work at least 12 times.. he promised he was going to provide when we decided that I was going to be the stay at home parent.. I now feel unemployable and he never seems to be able to keep a job… it’s stressful.. he’s out of work at the moment..
I’m just really fed up with feeling lonely and think it’s time to walk away.. but I don’t even know where to start.. he won’t leave the marital home.. this is his 2nd marriage and he’d be too embarrassed to tell his controlling mother another marriage has failed. He tells me I can leave.. if I had money I would..but not without my children.. any advice anyone can give would be so appreciated. Thank you X