Husband left me , I'm pregnant!

[KeZa34555]

Hello I've been with my husband 12 years , I am pregnant with my 2nd child. He didn't want another child and it happened by accident. He has accused me of getting pregnant without his consent then he started saying he wanted to do nothing with me no date nights then the next moment hes kissing me and cuddling me . Things came to blows and i ended up bleeding. Baby is fine we had a chat and he told me he doesn't want to try anymore and has given up on me but wants to stay in house as a friendship couple which I think is cruel and I've told him to leave. Has anyone else been through this I am absolutely breaking inside ?

What do you mean, things came to blows? If he physically attacked you then you need to get away from him — call Women’s Aid for advice; you may need police help. You need to take steps now to make sure you and your older child are safe. This is abusive behaviour from him and sadly domestic abuse often starts in pregnancy. You are better off without this nasty man. Wishing you all the best

I've worded that wrong and dotn know how to edit it. I mean we argued and I bleed later that day and had an amergancy scan

I think he's angry and going through the change curve. Let him have his say and you might find he comes to accept the situation.

My first little boy wasn't planned and my husband found it hard to accept that he didn't make the decision to be a father. He wouldn't change him for the world now and he's 10 years old.

I separated from him. It was hard, and still is, but I'm far happier albeit exhausted. You can do it if you want to by yourself.

We’re you both using contraception? Either way if he didn’t want another child then he shouldn’t be having sex or should wrap it up. I think you need to prepare for being a single mum. He sounds like he’s made up his mind.