Hi - looking for some advice. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for a really long time and it has really messed me up in so many ways. I have a child and I have to see him and it's really acrimonious, partly because he denies everything he's done, partly because he's just unnecessarily unpleasant and I rise to the bait.
We have a flat together that was almost at completion stage but the buyers dropped out last minute.
We are both renting separate properties (him with a now pregnant -girlfriend he met straight after we split). We are both paying the mortgage on the flat to be sold but it is hard financially. We've reduced the sale price on the flat and are even exploring putting it back on the rental market to ease things.
We paid about £215k on it and it is now worth about £315k. There is about £92k owed on the mortgage. A relative lent £88k. I believe the relative should be paid back from any sale plus interest. Recently he's been offering to buy me out.
And although when we first split his intentions seemed to be honourable, he keeps saying I didn't contribute anything as a SAHM and keeps suggesting that I'd get a smaller and smaller split of proceeds. Our child was pretty poorly for his first 3-4 years so I do feel I did contribute (and would feel that even if he hadn't been poorly).
Can someone give me advice on what I should do? Who might give me a professional opinion please? I'm not very savvy with this kind of thing and feel really emotional about everything right now.