I split from my ex husband in July 2021. We have two boys aged 8 and 12. He initially asked for 50:50 to which I agreed, however later changed his mind to every other weekend. September to March involved a lot of missed nights and last minute changes. We attended mediation over April, May and June and came to an agreement. He would do every other weekend and have the boys on a Wednesday evening. He also requested, and I agreed, that if a bank holiday fell on his weekend he would have the boys for the bank holiday.
He now won't sign the mediation agreement, has made other plans for the August bank holiday Monday and so expects me to have the boys back on Sunday night and then wants to pick them up for dinner Monday evening. In the same conversation he also informed me he would be having the boys overnight on Wednesday from some undetermined point next year. I protested as he is not particularly consistent with the nights he already has. His response was that the only reason I wouldn't want him to have the extra night is because I would receive less maintenance. He is very bitter about having to pay maintenance.
I am at my wits end now as despite agreeing to his requests and attending mediation I am no closer to having anything in place that is consistent for our children or allows me to plan out my time with and without them. I am considering filing a C100 to enforce the arrangement we have made but am a bit terrified that he will decide to go back to 50:50 and I will loose out on seeing my children after being the only stable parent they have had for the past year. Looking for opinions on what to do next and advice from those who have gone to court to get a child arrangement order.
FYI my ex is in the Navy which impacts on how often he can have the children. I accommodate his working pattern, but its having to accommodate last minute changes due to his social life that I object to.