I would really appreciate any advice and others experiences. I am getting divorced and have a 10 and 12 year old. My ex wants a 50/50 split but so far in their lives has rarely been there in the week as works long hours. He says ‘ it will work’ but this basically means he will be farming them out to my MIL or a nanny. My work is far more flexible and I can easily have them any evening he isn’t home so that they can be with one of us rather than a nanny but he won’t have this. Says it isn’t fair ( on who?) and he would rather they were with a nanny than me as sees me as a bad parent. I have no idea how he plans to manage school hols as he can’t take all that time off work. They have been used to spending far more time with me than them for the whole of their lives so far so why does he deciding he doesn’t love me and buggering off mean I get less time with them and they have to be with likely a nanny? Solicitor wasn’t very helpful and suggested we have to sort ourselves.