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Divorce/separation

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Where do I stand?

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Lost007 · 09/07/2022 13:33

Hey so me and my ex have been split up a while, I've been getting help with my mental health so I've been away a while and he's had the kids. I've returned and we got on well for a good month, I was staying at my parents but coming to my house every day at 6.30am taking kids to school and picking them up so he could work, I'd be at my house until 7/8pm put the kids to bed and be back when they woke up. This started to be 7 days a week but he was going having a few drinks leaving it later and later. Anyway last Friday I had the kids, doing the usual, and he never came back, didn't hear anything off him and he came back the Monday having been on a bender all weekend. I wasn't happy as he left without a word and no money for the kids, I told him I may as well live at the house and he ended up kicking off, police were called. I've not seen or heard from him all week, then Thursday I said he needs to help pay the mortgage but he sent me a text blackmailing me saying if I say it was me who kicked off to the police then he'll pay. He runs his own business which I helped set up, and earns good money, the business was in my name but he fraudulently took my name off it, so I have no rights to it at present. I'm not working at the min as I've got the kids constantly, and even if i claim they don't cover mortgage payments. He's just been and took a load of his stuff, apparently he's got a place and my eldest is staying there tonight as she's 14 and spoke to him herself. How do I go about getting money off him? He earns really good money so I know he has it. We've three kids which my dad is helping me pay for. I'm worried about my mortgage getting paid, I can get a solicitor and sort the long term out I'm just worried about the short term at the minute. Any advice please? Thank you

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Itsybitsydoodah · 09/07/2022 22:34

There's a lot of factors you've not included that are all variables.
Are you married?
Who's name is the mortgage in?
Can you prove he fraudulently took your name off the business?

Get copies of as much of his financial info as you can.

Put a claim in straight away for Universal Credit and also Child Maintenance.

Keep screenshots (back them up too, I email myself all whatsapp conversations) of all messages from him, they make for good evidence.

Get a good solicitor and get every penny you are entitled too.

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