how do I do this?

[startingoveragainagain]

It's become really clear that there isn't a future for my husband and I.
I want a divorce and he has acknowledged this, we have tried marriage counselling, which I think he had hoped that I would change my mind and feel that things weren't that bad, however, it's concreted my decision (I get the feeling the therapist thinks I should've left years ago) - anyway...

This will be my 2nd divorce, but it's much harder this time. Previously I had a good well paying job - now I don't have a job at all. So I just moved out and rented.
Previously my exH bought me out, this time we have a house that needs some work done on it before we have to sell.

Dos anyone have any tips on where to start, how to do this, and how to live together separated? I have been in the spare room for a few months.
thank you

Find someone who has gone through it recently. A divorce coach is an invaluable thing to bounce ideas around.

Talk to someone legally who can advise you on best ways forward to your specific context and circumstances.

Good luck

Then you need to write a plan.

What realistically can you both do to make the house better and ready to sell.

What would need a professional? Get quotes - even if you don’t do the work the quotes would give a buyer a realistic costing.

Ask an estate agent to visit and see what they think? This will give you an idea of how much equity you’d be entitled too and where you go from there.

Are there any children?