Divorcing EA husband and planning to place a PSO and CA order asap. He's turned around and said he wants to sort the custody out without the courts as it's expensive and if I do take it to court then he'll place a financial order against me and take half of my money!
Is this even possible? 
we have separate bank accounts (he has a large sum of cash stacked in his home country), rented house in his name, no joint accounts.
Would I have to split my separate account and savings with him? I'm a single mum and he doesn't even pay child maintenance! He also never used to give me any money when I was a SAHM and I had to buy almost everything for DS despite him having a very good salary.
Also, can I get him to pay maintenance before a child arrangements order or before the divorce has been finalised?
Have an appointment with solicitor in the next few days but was hoping someone had some insight.
Thanks! 