Husband walked out on me and the kids several months ago. This was so shocking and unexpected that at first i thought he was ill or having some kind if breakdown. Of course it wasn't that complicated, hes met someone else.
Leave your wife that's one thing but what's unforgivable is that he's left two children without saying a word or trying to explain it to them. They've gone from living with dad and seeing him all day to hardly seeing him at all and they are completely bewildered. A week after he left he asked to come back and get his stuff. I agreed but said it must be when the kids were at school and nursery during the day as i didn't want them to see him physically taking his belonging out the house in boxes. Of course he didn't do it then, he let himself in while we were sitting having our tea and cruelly tried to do it all in front of them. I had to tell him to leave in no uncertain terms.
We agreed he would see them on a Saturday but Ive had a series of no shows, so much so that i don't even tell the kids he's coming anymore... if he comes it'll be a nice surprise for them but more often than not he lets them down.
He's left me in the lurch paying for the house, bills, nursery fees etc. I have a decent job but i work 3 days a week. I have applied for what ever single person benefits i am entitled too, council tax discount etc. I may have to go full time also. But i want to make an application to the child maintenance agency for ex to contribute but he won't give me his new address. How do i apply when i don't know where he is? Also he does self employed/contract work so he doesn't have an employer who i could tell csa about? Any advice welcome.