Afraid of the future…refuge (UK) route advice needed.

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I’m a SAHM with two under 2 both with special needs. I’m completely dependent on OH financially etc but he is verbally/emotionally/financially abusive. I’ve been speaking to Womens Aid who say they can get us into a refuge (no space with relatives), but I’m petrified of what life will look like once we leave. I’m looking for advice from anyone out there who’s been through this it can offer real advice. How will we survive? Do you get emergency benefits? How much is it? I’m so distraught about providing for my babies and taking away their ‘comfortable’ life (I know it’s the right thing to do though). With all this uncertainty about the cost of living I’m fighting to find the courage to do this and get out.

I haven't been in your situation bit I saw no comments and just wanted to send some sympathy.
If your children have special needs you should be eligible for Disabled living allowance I think.
I'd say a call to citizens advice bureau would be helpful, they know all you need to know. There's usually an open 'surgery' drop in in most towns so you can go and actually see a person. I often found this was easier with small kids than the telephone.
Have you discussed this with your friends? I'm sure they will be a great support
Talking helps. Sending hugs x

The refuge will help you deal with all of that support you every step of the way