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Help with divorce please

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Mary198 · 09/06/2022 22:05

Hi everyone, I'm after a bit of advice from you. My husband and I decided quite recently to separate. We have 2 children together, both in primary school. As we are renting a quite expensive home, we have decided to remain in the house together until beggining of next year when our renting contract expires, and then move in separate houses. In the meantime we will start the divorce process and prepare ourselves mentally for when we are letting the children now about our decision (the plan is to do this after Christmas).
We live in the UK but we are not british citizens, none of us. So my first question is: what is the risk of my husband deciding to take the children back to our home country? We decided together that the children will remain with me, but trying to be prepared.
Also, my income is higher than his, is there a risk in there for me to end up paying him maintenance?
When is the best time to let the school know, so they can support with the children's mental health and also with school pick up etc (planning to instruct them that I will be picking them up from school mostly)?
Anything else I should think of?
Is it a bad idea to stay together until next year?

Thank you x

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KangarooKenny · 12/06/2022 12:56

Do the children have passports ? If so are they in your possession and hidden ?

Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 12/06/2022 15:34

He cannot take the children to your home country without your permission unless he is abducting them. If that country is a signatory to the the Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction then he will be arrested there as well. If it is not, be careful and hide their passports if you think he might do this.

The parent that pays maintenance is the one who the children do not live with, so if they will be living you he will have to pay you child support. Or if they live 50/50 between you both there is no child support on either side. You are renters so there is zero likelihood of him getting spousal support.

If there is no abuse and the split is amicable you could stay living together until the house contract ends. That is entirely up to whether you can emotionally deal with it.

Separate your finances, secure your share of any savings, and start figuring out how it will financially work once you split.

Mary198 · 16/06/2022 22:31

Yes, they are now. Thank you

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Mary198 · 16/06/2022 22:31

Thank you very much for your advice x

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