I had relationship for a year with a man that I argued with a lot. While I was usually trying to find solutions and never raised my voice (but cried few times). He was usually shouting and swearing during fights. Due to my anxiety I had to end the relationship (over text - I know I’m terrible but I was scared to do it in person). He called me and started shouting and swearing at me “do whatever you f want you disgusting woman …”and these sort of things. I need to now give him his stuff and I need mine (left tablet and few important stuff at his place). The final break up happened few days ago and everyday I wanna message him if he is ok and that we can have a final talk and exchange the things. But worried how that’s gonna go- any tips? I expected apology after the shouting but it’s been three days and no contact . I wanna ask him if he is ok (as I still care obviously), but also feel like he should be asking me after the shouting call (I was just saying that I’m sorry and I can’t do this anymore). Any thoughts? Tips how to handle it?