Like, I own our house but even if I got some profit from selling it (would be 10K for me and 10K for husband if we are lucky and tbh that would be down to £5000 between us once debts paid off) he would be unemployed (because he was a stay at home parent who couldn’t hold down a job because of bad mental health) and so would I (because realistically I would end up with the kids full time at least at first even though I would want joint custody, and our youngest two are babies and I can’t rely on my husband to be reliable enough to watch them while I work consistently.
so we have two people about to sell a house looking for separate homes suitable for kids with no income.
is there any advice on what we should do?my husband doesn’t really know I want to do this (he doesn’t believe it, and gets furious every time I say it, and whenever things get bad enough for him to want to split up he just gets this look like he’s about to commit suicide and by that point I’ve had to go through so much shit I just think what’s the point and we go back to living unhappily side by side. But I want to break up. And I want my husband to be ok, but I know it’s not really my responsibility. So what do I do? How do I get a plan for getting a hone for me and the kids? Please don’t tell me to save up, because it’s impossible, we are just getting further in debt. Feeling really hopeless rn