Voluntary form E

[Scareystress]

NC as outing.
Wanted to disclose at mediation, but STBXH solicitor wanting full disclosure first, as I’ve always looked after the finances.
Am I being paranoid to not want to hand so much data over without similar level of confidentiality as we would get with court proceedings? Mainly due to distrust in the people I know he will share with, and his general relaxed attitude to data security.

Couples usually exchange form e at the same time. What's happening with his?

By ‘first’ I meant exchange before mediation. We will be exchanging at the same time, but mine will have far more information in which I know he intends to ‘share’, and want to prevent that for many reasons.

You will need to declare all information and these are his assets just as much as yours. So you need to get on and do it. Solicitors on both sides need to prepare for mediation so they need it . It is not optional.

BUT- I would write a formal letter to him and send copies to both solicitors to state that the financial information is confidential to you both, your divorce solicitors and the court until the financial settlement is sealed. You would request that he discusses it with no one else, and vice versa, through this process as it also consents your future financial status. Ask that Once sealed neither of you can discuss your resulting financial circumstances with anyone else going forwards. He can obviously discuss his own with whoever he likes and vice versa.

I’m not sure how enforceable it is ( maybe quick question for solicitor) but at least you have written it and solicitors have seen it. In practice I don’t think there is any way to stop it if he ignores your request. At the end of the day right now it is as much his information as yours and if he wants to discuss it with someone else there are certainly a few reasons that wouldn’t be massively unreasonable e.g. taking a friends advice etc.

Oh, and court proceedings don’t give you any more or less security..not sure why you think mediation is like an open house with respect to disclosure. The mediations are bound by confidentiality clauses and data protection act

Who are you afraid he will share it with?

Thanks EmilyBolton
Concerns are general carelessness resulting in fraud/identity theft. Posting stuff on line about my income. And there’s some sensitive health info in there.