So I filed for no fault divorce (with half of the rest of the UK) in April. Now I’m just going round and round in houses what to do next, to scared to even speak to him about it.
He wants the children 50:50 (so he doesn’t have to pay my any maintenance) I’m not in agreement with this. He can’t cope with all 3 for even 12 hours left alone a whole weekend. His job also won’t allow for it with the hours he has to work. He relies heavily on alcohol and I’m going to be worried about them all the time. I’m trying to make him see that he will have a better quality of time with them if he had them for shorter periods. But he’s having none of it.
In terms of the house, he’s adamant that I’m the one that needs to leave. He doesn’t want to pay me out what I’m entitled to though. I’ve suggested I stay here until the children are 18. Again he’s saying no.
I have sought legal advice. They’re suggesting going down the Mesher order route. I’m hoping to try and get him to listen before doing that though. I’m planning to see if he wants to try mediation as well.
when he gets drunk he gets nasty with his words, so I try and steer away from all forms of conversation about what’s happening.
Another thing on my radar is just taking 50:50 and getting a shared ownership place. It’s a little away from the school and the childrens activities than I would have liked and much smaller than what the children are used to. But it would give me the freedom from him that I crave. But not sure if it’s best move for the children.
So basically I just go round and round in my head undecided what to do! If anyone has any experience of the Mesher Order that would be great 😊