H & I are divorcing after a long marriage.
There's more than enough assets between us for me to retain the family home for the teenage kids and I to live in for the forseeable future. Allocating this to me would leave plenty of other assets for H to use/cash-in in order to buy somewhere for him to live.
Given this fact, I don't understand why my solicitor has asked that I research and print out details of "other suitable accomodation to meet yours and the children's needs".
Currently there doesn't seem be that much property available in the local area at present and I'm really not sure whether I should be looking for details of any property that we could just about shoehorn the kids and I + belongings into (costing about 1/2 the value of the house we want to stay in) or property in less pleasant/inconvenient areas (approx 2/3 of the current house value), or slightly smaller property in the local area (approx 3/4 to 4/5 of the current house value or other similar value properties. If the the total joint assets were lower so that we'd need to sell the family home and both get smaller properties/move to cheaper areas, I'd understand her request but that we're fortunate to not be in that situation.
"Suitable for meeting our needs" could be rather subjective too.
Circumstances are such that only 1 child is prepared to go and visit H once we are in separate homes and even then they might not stay over (he's unlikley to move any distance away at all) so I'm guessing that his actual needs are a 2 bed room house/flat or would a court consider that we both need a house the same size and value ?
I'm stumped as I've only just read the e-mail from the solicitor and she wants this first thing tomorrow as she's about to go on holiday for 2 weeks.
Any advice ?
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Why is my solicitor asking this ?
SeeingRed · 26/05/2022 23:27
rocketfromthecrypt · 28/05/2022 17:14
You want to stay in a big house in the nice area. Maybe he, not unreasonably, wants a big house in a nice area too. Your solicitor needs to establish if what you want is realistic given the size of the pot being split.
rocketfromthecrypt · 28/05/2022 17:15
And what teenagers say now might not be what they say next month or next year. The court knows this and will want to ensure fairness. He's being no more selfish than you.
SeeingRed · 28/05/2022 17:48
Those not prepared to engage with H now have been steadfast in this matter for a looong time.
Personally I believe they'll have flown the nest and be established in their own homes before any rapprochement might occur, unless H has a damascene moment before then.
rocketfromthecrypt · 28/05/2022 17:15
And what teenagers say now might not be what they say next month or next year. The court knows this and will want to ensure fairness. He's being no more selfish than you.
Soontobe60 · 28/05/2022 18:06
I’m confused. How long have you been apart?
I’d be very careful that the courts won’t see your children’s unwillingness to see their father as the result of parental alienation.
SeeingRed · 28/05/2022 17:48
Those not prepared to engage with H now have been steadfast in this matter for a looong time.
Personally I believe they'll have flown the nest and be established in their own homes before any rapprochement might occur, unless H has a damascene moment before then.
rocketfromthecrypt · 28/05/2022 17:15
And what teenagers say now might not be what they say next month or next year. The court knows this and will want to ensure fairness. He's being no more selfish than you.
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