Ex taking children abroad for the first time

[Laurajayuk]

I can’t sleep properly, I feel sick every time I think about it, my heart hurts.
it’s happening this week and every day it’s closer I’m more of a wreck inside.

How do I cope with the separation, the worry, the pain of missing them, the worst case scenario catastrophising I’m doing in my head.

they've been away with him before but in this country. That was hard enough!!

He will text every now and then to say they’re ok.

I want them (3 kids) to have a great time, I’m trying to hold this all in so they don’t see.

I feel like I’m losing my mind, it feels so intense.

Any kind advice appreciated. I’m a mess.
x

The first time is always the worst. But your children will be fine. He is their father, why would they not be fine?

Why not make sure you’ve filled your time with lots of things to occupy you so you don't sit dwelling on it. Have you got close friends who you can spend time with?

As above, try and live vicariously through them whenever you get photos etc and know how wonderfully happy they are.

But, as a PP said, make sure you’re busy and doing things. Also, if you know it sends you into a bit of a sad spiral, spend the week being teetotal, as I try and do that when I know I’m already a bit sad.

Crikey you're going to make yourself ill at this rate

Are you able to see someone quickly to try to give yourself some meditation or mindfullness so that you can try to keep as calm as possible.

You dont want the kids to come back to you being a nervous wreck, they'll be worried about leaving you for other holidays or even contact.

You might be able to find something online?

No advice but complete solidarity. My ex is taking them abroad for the first time in August.

I've asked for constant updates and facetime regularly.

Wish my ex would take the kids abroad, sounds like a nice dad to me

I've just got through this - exh took my daughter on holiday so I went on a separate holiday at the same time to keep me busy! It was so hard, I just kept wishing I was on holiday with her, the middle 3 days of the week were the worst as I felt like I was drowning in missing her, but then after that it was just a few sleeps until she was home and now it's like she's never left 😁 sorry I don't have any tips other than keep busy...and you will get through it!